1. When life becomes emotionally difficult, I usually:

A. Stay present and work through it. (4 points)
B. Talk about it but struggle at times. (3 points)
C. Withdraw or avoid it. (2 points)
D. Distract myself or pretend it isn't happening. (1 point)

2. When I feel hurt by someone I care about:

A. I communicate openly and respectfully. (4 points)
B. I try to communicate but sometimes become reactive. (3 points)
C. I shut down. (2 points)
D. I avoid the conversation entirely. (1 point)

3. How comfortable are you being alone?

A. Very comfortable. (4 points)
B. Mostly comfortable. (3 points)
C. Uncomfortable for extended periods. (2 points)
D. I actively avoid being alone. (1 point)

4. How often do you reflect on your own behavior and patterns?

A. Regularly. (4 points)
B. Occasionally. (3 points)
C. Only when something goes wrong. (2 points)
D. Rarely. (1 point)

5. How do you typically handle criticism?

A. I consider it and decide what is useful. (4 points)
B. I initially react but eventually reflect. (3 points)
C. I become defensive. (2 points)
D. I feel attacked or overwhelmed. (1 point)

6. Do you believe healthy long-term relationships are still possible?

A. Absolutely. (4 points)
B. Mostly. (3 points)
C. I'm uncertain. (2 points)
D. Not really. (1 point)

7. How often do you expect people to disappoint you?

A. Rarely. (4 points)
B. Sometimes. (3 points)
C. Frequently. (2 points)
D. Almost always. (1 point)

8. Which statement feels most true?

A. I take responsibility for my emotional state. (4 points)
B. I try to but don't always succeed. (3 points)
C. Other people significantly affect my emotional state. (2 points)
D. My emotions often feel outside my control. (1 point)

9. When conflict arises in relationships:

A. I see it as an opportunity to understand each other. (4 points)
B. I find it uncomfortable but manageable. (3 points)
C. I avoid it whenever possible. (2 points)
D. I dread it and struggle significantly. (1 point)

10. How aware are you of your emotional triggers?

A. Very aware. (4 points)
B. Somewhat aware. (3 points)
C. Only aware after reacting. (2 points)
D. Mostly unaware. (1 point)

11. Do you know what kind of relationship you want?

A. Very clearly. (4 points)
B. Fairly clearly. (3 points)
C. Somewhat. (2 points)
D. Not really. (1 point)

12. Do you know what kind of partner you want to become?

A. Very clearly. (4 points)
B. Fairly clearly. (3 points)
C. Somewhat. (2 points)
D. Not really. (1 point)

13. How often do you feel emotionally exhausted?

A. Rarely. (4 points)
B. Occasionally. (3 points)
C. Frequently. (2 points)
D. Most of the time. (1 point)

14. How easy is it for you to be vulnerable?

A. Easy with trusted people. (4 points)
B. Possible but challenging. (3 points)
C. Difficult. (2 points)
D. Extremely difficult. (1 point)

15. Which statement best describes your current situation?

A. I am actively building a life and relationships I value. (4 points)
B. I am moving in that direction. (3 points)
C. I feel somewhat stuck. (2 points)
D. I feel disconnected from what I truly want. (1 point)